Chastity is something that rarely seems to be talked about in pagan circles, I guess it’s just something that is plain boring. I’m going to write a little a bit about it though. Indeed, I consider myself to be chaste, but not because I’m a prude (far from it, in fact). I chose to be chaste because it suits my nature.
It may seem a bit odd for someone devotes a lot of their time to a sexual deity like Dionysos, to espouse the values of chastity. But Dionysian worship isn’t all about sex and drunken revelry:
“On women, where Aphrodite is concerned, Dionysos will not enforce restraint – such modesty you must seek in nature, where it already dwells. But for any woman whose character is chaste she won’t be defiled by Bacchic revelry ”
– Euripides, Bakkhai 314-317
But do not confuse chastity with celibacy and abstinence. Chastity is about temperance, which fits in with the virtue of sophrosyne, moderation in action, thought and feeling. So chastity, to me, would mean restricting sex to be an action between people who have been cultivating a relationship for a while.
I’m certainly not going to pledge to life long abstinence, because I would like a companion one day. But, if I don’t find a partner, then it is no big loss to me. Maybe it is my Capricornian nature, but I’d rather have sex with a partner I trust, rather than have a quick fling.
Call me boring if you like, I couldn’t give two figs.